Ordeal of an operation

This morning, I was calling my oldest friend to see how was her husband – he  was having  the main valve of his heart replaced.  So of course, I wanted to know how he was doing – well, the answer that I received  completely stunned me.  First of all, she proceeded to tell me how fed up she was, repeating it many times, and after a few minutes, I asked,  “Well how was the operation”?   For her, at this moment, his operation was not important, except the way she felt towards him,  how her  feelings were much more important than the condition  of her husband after this important procedure.  Then she had to leave me because her daughter was driving her to the hospital.   I can truly say that it was the daughter who wanted to see the father, because, my friend did not want to go.   I have to say that  my friend   needs a lot of attention and if she does not get it, well she can turn on you very quickly.   Her, herself has been sick and hospitalized many times for operations, heart attacks, cancer, and every time her husband  has driven her for these appointments.   And for the first time in his life, he is sick and she is acting that way. Another thing that I have to add here, is that she does not drive and has never cooked in her life, so this medical predicament of her husband has really put a damper on her everyday life.  A lesson has to be learned here – take a few moments  and try to think of everything that other people have done for you and try to understand that sick people want compassion and loving care.